Our England is a garden, and such gardens are not made
By singing:—”Oh, how beautiful!” and sitting in the shade…
~Rudyard Kipling, “The Glory of the Garden”
Springtime is almost out the door, but my garden tells me I’m right on time. I plant a myriad of roses, herbs and vegetables and remember what a growth in progress I too am. There are days when I feel like I’m stunted emotionally, angry or befuddled over something I have no business being angry over. It comes out of left field. I become overwhelmed with stinking-thinking, and self-pity. You know the kind of thinking I’m talking about. It’s the kind of thinking that says, “I’d be better off back in bed!” or “I’m going no where fast” as if running in circles. This reminds me to pay attention and care for my emotional garden.
What Do We Do About It?
As I look at my garden in the heat of the sun, I feel a certain sadness in the wilted and turned-down leaves drooping. I can almost hear my vegetables crying out for relief. The heat can become unbearable and I must maintain a diligent watering schedule. That picture comes to me because I can easily feel just like this! In no time I can go from my garden to the fate of my lawn, the leaves on the ground, the lawn that needs cutting, the clothes that need washing and overwhelm myself without even trying. These are the times when what I really need, is a refreshing glass of water and a five-minute break to get back on track.
Five Things We Can Do to Feed Own Garden:
- We stay in the moment. One thing can do to remove ourselves from that bottomless pit of poor-me-ism, is to stay where our feet are. When we let our thoughts rule our actions, we really do go no where fast. We have to stop right where we are, take a deep breath in and exhale everything we’re thinking about except for where we are right here right now. Then we become focused, energized, and available to ourselves to find the next solution to a problem.
- We can feed ourselves positive thinking! Instead of allowing our demons to take over thoughts and waste precious energy, we feed ourselves positive energy all day long. Instead of seeing our lives or situations as being half filled or on empty, we work to find self-assuring, encouraging facts about our lives. Putting facts on paper of our strong points is one good way to make them come alive right before us. Maybe we’re not where we want to be but we’re alive, relatively healthy, right where we are.
- We remember Rome wasn’t built in a day. That’s right. And neither is our thinking. If you’re anything like me, you’ve spent years spinning negative and self-defeating thoughts which in turn, produced negative and self-defeating actions. If we are to recreate our thinking we must remember that, just like growing a beautiful garden, new and exciting thoughts and efforts take time to change a lifetime of depressive and self-loathing thinking.
- We get out of our heads and into action. Making ourselves available to help others is one way we can keep the sad stories we tell ourselves at bay. Making a list of things we need to do just for today is another way to maintain a positive attitude because we’re taking care of business and in turn, taking care of our own self-esteem through productivity.
- We take care of our own self-esteem. Every thing we say and do is an opportunity waiting for us to do it with our highest good in mind. We move with intention and a determination to be the best person we can be, just for today. We avoid gossip, arguments, and petty manipulation and allow others to be who they are. In so doing, we become free to be who we are and to extend our inner kindness out, to include others in our world. We become our own best example of who we want to be. It’s called practice.
This is how we grow our garden. The weeds represent negative energy and our words, we use against others and ourselves. So, we strive to be gentle with ourselves and nurture our words and thoughts the same way we take care of our gardens, with loving care. We deserve it! It is why we’re here, to give back to others.
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